Dating a paraplegic guy
" And I wanted to say, "Of course I can, a*****e,"' she said.'I seriously can't tell you how many Tinder guys asked me that as soon as I mentioned the wheelchair.' She found that she came up against the same reactions across the board, whether she was living in LA, Boston, or New York. Ok, time to temper this remark: For many, the dating ritual can call forth all our latent insecurities—especially the pressure-cooker called the first date—when we put on our cologne or perfume, test our breath, and wait for the doorbell to ring or our date to arrive at the determined meeting place.Is it safe to assume these feelings are increased when it includes dating someone in a wheelchair?If you have a disability and are looking to date, I’ll share what worked for me so you can copy it. The most direct way to get some results fast seems to be online dating so I’m going to hit that shit like a bullet train. Signed up on Plenty Of Fish (pof.com) because it’s free and has the largest user base. Written myself a profile and added a picture, just a mugshot, not the chair! Dating or in a relationship and want to tell your story?
'It was the most uncomfortable date I've ever been on and felt really forced.' Finally, at the end of the evening, she addressed the situation, leading the guy to admit that he 'didn't know how to talk to someone in a wheelchair' — despite the fact that they'd been getting on so well in their conversations on Tinder for two weeks.'Sometimes they would literally say something like, "Well, can you still have sex?Unless we ask, please don’t suddenly start pushing us We know that you mean well, but if you accidentally hit someone or something, the embarrassment is on us.There’s nothing more mortifying than having your wheels stuck in a door frame We love spontaneity as much as the next person, however, unless you know 100% that your idea is wheelchair friendly, phone to double check first.In the beginning, focus on getting to know the person. Some wheelchair user’s stories are tragic and it may be very difficult for them to discuss what happened.Have a great time, get to know the real person, and you never know, you may have met your soul mate.
'When I first went on Tinder, I just thought, "OK, I'm a nice person, I'm not bad-looking, I've got a good career", but then I felt like I had to view myself as a disabled person instead.' She is pretty used to it by now, and has found that it doesn't stop her from having a normal, happy life; she travels, has a good job in public relations, and lives by herself.