Blacks dating blacks
While I've dated other races, I'm mostly attracted to black men.My eyes and heart tend to steer me in that direction.I can't pinpoint physical features or characteristics of black men because that's not only wrong, it's just not the entire case. Have I come across one that's caught my attention? I have strong Mexican men in my life, too—my father and my two brothers—that I hold close, respect, and admire.What I'm attracted to can be found in men of all races: strong arms (sense of protection), a great smile, nice build (healthy), ambitious, passionate, a sense of humor—a touch of sarcasm helps—and a kind heart. My brothers never seemed to have an opinion as to the type of men I dated, and were only concerned with how each guy treated me. My dad has always been a quiet man, and his only insertion in conversations about my dating life: "Are you happy, ?He’s treating a whole group of people as the few he’s grown up with, which is making a generalization.Lacy’s comparing every black boy on earth to the people he grew up with, which is not only inaccurate, but just wrong.
Or as Daryl Perry wrote for Affinity, “Lacy feels as it’s almost incestuous for him to want to date black men. How is not being attracted to a whole race of people justified? Lacy has no actual reasoning for his preferences, and just dug himself into a bigger hole…Both minorities have been reported to confront more than cooperate in certain areas; reports have pinpointed competition for jobs as a factor.What's crazy to me is that both groups, Mexicans and blacks, have been marginalized historically, and dealt with levels of oppression by systems, yet tension is between individuals.My mom knew her father wouldn't approve either way. She knew if she wanted to be with my dad, she'd have to runaway with him. Despite not knowing she was pregnant with my older brother at the time, she hid in a bunk in the back of my father's van and they crossed the border together.They settled in a largely Mexican neighborhood in San Jose, California.